#compassionate self care

[happy-place-for-sad-people]

something my therapist told me and might help you through difficult times: your brain holds resistance to change. you've been doing something for so long now, to the point that's what you consider normal or routine. you wanting to change that for one reason or the other will be conflicting, and your system will probably make you feel like that's not what you want or need, but remember it's just your brain playing tricks on you. you're on the right path, sweet soul, keep it going. i love you.

[wordsofwisdomandsoul]

[uncanny-tranny]

One of the hardest things to actually accept, in my experience, is that you eventually have to forgive yourself for the harm you did to yourself. A good way to move on from that is just being able to let your past self rest in peace. Don't stomp on their resting spot, they need to be at peace. They deserve to be at peace, and so do you.

[diaryofanenchantedprincess]

Self compassion is the antidote.

Whenever you’re feeling down, when you’re feeling ashamed especially- be compassionate to yourself. When you’re having a hard day, do something with the mindset that being kind and gentle and loving to yourself is what will help you. You deserve that kindness. You deserve to feel good.

Do one thing as an act of service for yourself. If you want to do more and fill the day with self care activities- please do. But if you’re only able to manage one thing, please do it. It’s different for everyone. It can be getting a scoop of ice cream. Walking outside for 10 minutes. Laying down under the blankets with your stuffed toy. A guided breathing exercise. Simply sitting down and observing nature. Anything.

Whatever it is- make sure it’s something mindful and not something that distracts you like watching tv or scrolling on your phone. For me- it’s making a cup of hot chocolate.

Hot chocolate has never failed me.

I simply boil cubes of 70% dark chocolate in some milk, and while I’m humming (I make myself hum a tune no matter what mood I’m in), I keep stirring without letting the milk come to a boil and when it’s reached that creamy, luscious consistency, I take it off the heat, pour into my pink mug and top it off with some mini marshmallows and shaved dark chocolate. Sometimes I’ll omit the marshmallows and put in a spoon of vanilla ice cream and gently stir. I’ll watch the ice cream melt into little snowy swirls on top of my beautiful hot chocolate and that first little sip- I swear- feels like it reaches my entire nervous system and calms it down. Like a wave of relief and relaxation washing over me.

In my darkest moments, when I feel like I’m so deep in a pit that there’s nothing that could possibly get me out, no light could ever reach down to a darkness that dwells so deep, hot chocolate is an instant cure. A comfort. A balm that soothes my soul. A warm blanket around my freezing heart. A gentle hand that guides me slowly but surely out of that dark pit.

I do this every time I fall into my pit. It has gotten me out every single time. Not right away some days, but it leaves a lasting impact and has reduced the frequency of my ‘mental lows’. It’s imprinted in my mind that when I feel low, I am worth being loved then too. When I feel worthless, I am worth love especially then.

If you’re feeling low today, please do one kind, loving act of service for yourself. You deserve to feel good. You deserve to be shown kindness and love. Especially if the person showing that to you is you.

[crisishauntline]

I have got to learn how to stop punishing my body with short-term dopamine fixes every time I experience anxiety. At this point, my nervous and digestive systems can no longer handle the consequences of over-/under-eating, staying up all night, and not exercising or going outside all day. Not only do I feel even worse while the problem triggering my anxiety persists, I also have less capacity to feel joy or relief if/when the stressor actually gets resolved.

I deserve rest, nutritious food, water, movement, and fresh air even when I am sad, overwhelmed, unproductive, or angry with myself. Even when I “waste” a day due to a mistake, maladaptive coping mechanism, or simple human limitation, I still deserve a fighting chance at making the next day a better one.

[astrogirlythings]

[bilaudad]

will prob never stop losing my mind that it was after meeting Jesus that Crowley changed his name

[loveyourlovelysoul]

if something is really stressing you and you have a chance to not confront it when you are asked to, you are allowed to avoid it. you're allowed to put yourself first and do something to ease your mind and, if necessary, you can come back to it another time. being nice and compassionate with yourself means also realizing when something is too much and moving away from it (momentarily or definitely).

yes this is a copying mechanism that shouldn't be used too much, especially if you're just avoiding to confront your own distress about the situation as well. but, if it can help you take a breath and calm down instead of confronting it all while being overwhelmed (and making it worse), it's okay.

[crescentfool]

beaming everyone on the dashh with good brain day vibes!!! i hope that you all can remember to extend self-compassion to yourself whenever you're feeling down about something 💙

[markllockwood]

The Healing POWER of LOVE

In order for us to actually find love, a part of us must die. A part of us needs to die because it's not love; usually instead, it's something based in fear, says Mark L Lockwood who designed his 10 step healing course with the very first step being centr

An Introduction to Love vs Personality The modern world of psychiatry widely acknowledges the importance of self-love for healing the disordered persona, especially in the aftermath of a global mental health crisis. This concept is supported by abundant research in psychology, coaching, religion, spirituality, and medicine. It seems that understanding the true essence of love might have eluded…

[gorkaya-trava]

I love!!!!!!!! being me!!!!!!!!!! >:]!!!!!!!!!!!

[happy-place-for-sad-people]

friendly reminder that you owe no one an explanation for the things that bring you joy. you don't have to find a justification for the music you listen to, or the activities you love doing, or the series you watch when you're bored. they don't need to understand it, and you don't need to compensate them.

[cjd-nbr]

New job on Monday.

Way less money.

Way more fulfilling work for the time being.

Exploring an interest I’ve always had.

Working in the community.

My debt is up.

I have 0 money and won’t til the end of the month.

I have received so much support over this brief 2 weeks of unemployment from my village, friends and family have supported me, not just financially, but spiritually, because I’ve needed that so much more.

I’m taking my time and doing things at my pace. Following my interest and those things that feel right.

I’m less reactive to what I perceive as negativity, everyone has an opinion and a lot of times care/concern for one another overrides the love we have.

My debt is up. I have 0 money. But my spirit is full. I’m no delusion spiritual nigga neither, I know I gotta get my money right, but having my spirit full and right first will allow me to function better with money.

Overall I’m proud of progress, my apartment is so much cleaner regularly than in the past. I’m eating, sleeping ok, better than the past for sure.

Still to work on:

Less smoke.

Less candy.

Less late night eating.

More exercise.

More prayer.

More meditation.

More creativity.

Acknowledging progress and still wanting more is the route. I’m so happy today.

Nah less.

[raffaellopalandri]

World Mental Health Day: Raising Awareness, Reducing Stigma, and Promoting Mental Well-being

World Mental Health Day, celebrated every year on October 10th, is an international day dedicated to raising awareness about mental health issues, promoting mental well-being, and advocating for the importance of mental health as an integral part of our overall well-being. Established by the World Federation for Mental Health (WFMH) in 1992, the day has become a crucial global initiative that…

[lilmadorange]

Mission Statement - Practice Notes for The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Purpose: To make a great impact/inspire people's lives by passing them energy and happiness. I want to make everyone feel special.

Values: Love, growth, compassion, and authenticity are at the heart of everything I do, open-minded,

Vision: I see myself as someone who nurtures meaningful relationships and makes a positive difference.

Roles: 

Daughter: I bring hope and happiness to my parents. I let my family admire me for how independent and strong I am.

Friend: I am a good friend who leads by example. I get over things easily, and I always find a way to enjoy myself and be happy. I cheer my friends up when they need me. 

Co-worker: I want to be a helpful coworker who unblocks tasks and cheers people on when they are stressed.

Lover: I try to be my lover's best friend, someone who makes their day every single day. Help them relax and be their comfort-zone.

Goals: I aim to reach my fullest potential in life: discipline and diversity.

Action Plan: I will practice gratitude, be present with those I care about, and care for my mental and physical health daily.

[crisishauntline]

Someday you will be loved by someone who loves the distance between you just as much as your closeness,

Who loves how you much value freedom and free thought,

Who is glad when you choose to spend time with yourself and return to them with new discoveries, inventions, insights, and questions to share,

Who is curious and excited to discuss differences in core beliefs, passions, and ways of loving,

Who is not afraid to pursue their own dreams or help you pursue yours, even if they may lead you away from each other,

Who tells you they love you just to tell you, not test you, and hears you when you tell them,

Who can hold and tend their pain without resenting you for the times you can’t do it with them,

Who remembers the promises they have made, and works to mend the ones they have broken,

Who loves you more than they fear your absence.

Someday you will be the person who can love someone without losing herself,

Who does not let the fear of being judged make her run from closeness, dissociate from her feelings, or take offense at misunderstandings,

Who trusts herself enough to set clear, firm boundaries and keep them with kindness and consistency,

Who can rejoice in debate and difference without forcing her ideas on others or discounting their experiences,

Who can draw upon her strengths, accept and heal her wounds, and boldly pursue her dreams without waiting for approval or permission,

Who can love and give without staking her self-worth on being perfectly useful or pleasing,

Who is secure enough to give reassurance without defensiveness or projection,

Who holds herself and others equally accountable for commitments made,

Who loves and cares for herself as fully as she does others.